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March 06, 2010
6:38
Guest Contributor Lolita On Seducing Ms. S
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I’ve been going through something of a lezzie phase these days (read ‘a while’): watching girl porn, hooking up with just as inebriated members of our fairer sex, checking out tits and ass on the train, telling random girls at bars how pretty they are (and effectively weirding them out, I’m sure). Point is, it wasn’t that much of a surprise (to me at least) how things ended up with Ms. S; I can’t speak for her That’s not to say I didn’t have doubts, I’m not that cocky (or at all, in fact hehe). For one thing – and this is just for those readers on whom the connotations of ‘Lolita’ are lost ... Related posts:
March 05, 2010
18:31
Guest Contributor Ms S On: Being Seduced By a Younger Woman
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So I got seduced last night by a 23 year old woman and I loved it! In case you’re wondering, yes I’m a woman too, and until a few months ago was completely ’straight’. Well that’s if you ignore a few dalliances with girls in boarding school (but surely practically everybody who went to a same sex boarding school messed about with the same sex, right?) So how did this seduction happen? Well, a friend told me that she knew this woman who really wanted to get to know me. Apparently she had seen me out on the town a few times and thought I would be a cool person to get to know. A few ... Related posts:
February 25, 2010
18:28
The Lowdown on Human Papilloma Virus (HPV)
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So all the recent conversations we’ve had here on genital warts and HPV motivated me to email a Dr friend to ask her for the lowdown on the virus and this is what she said: Genital warts are caused by Human Papilloma Virus (HPV) strains 6 and 11. Cervical cancer is caused mainly by strains 16 and 18. There are 2 cervical cancer jabs one can take to guard against HPV: Cervirax which protects only against 16 and 18 and Gardesil which protects against all four of those strains. So the first point is if you want to get a vaccination against HPV then you need to make sure you’re getting the right vaccination. The ... No related posts.
February 23, 2010
0:00
Disclaimer: The Deletion of ‘Nasty Ass Men’
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You may notice the last post has been deleted. This is because there is some information in the post that could lead to the person(s) involved being identified. In the interest of being a safe space, we’ve had to take the decision of deleting the post. The issue the post dealt with – that of HPV is a serious one and so in a future post we shall present more information on the subject. Related posts:Calling all Guest Contributors Abstinence in a sex obsessed world? An Open Response to a Concerned Friend: Dating a Sexuality Blogger Related posts:
February 18, 2010
18:08
Nasty Ass Men
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If you’re a disease free guy, this post should not offend you. BUT, if you’re a guy with a v.d. (venereal disease) and pull these sort of antics, you should be ’shamed of yourself! Lord help me. Yesterday, I was yobbing with a good friend of mine on Skype who told me about a super hot guy she’d met the week before in Accra. She had met up with a group of friends at the Mall, and was introduced to a yummy piece of eye-candy who had come in from England/Spain/Yankee or whatever. They were mutually and instantly attracted to each other and spent the rest of the evening talking. Of course they exchanged numbers, and ... No related posts.
February 17, 2010
19:56
Are You A Woman Or A Man?
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My co-blogger Abena and I were discussing the other day how it appears that a lot of men read our blog, and how men send us emails asking us to blog on particular subjects. Our perspective was ‘…but we started this blog for women’. I said to Abena: ‘I think the majority of our readers are women but they’re just acting like they are shy’. I was reminded of this conversation with Abena when I had a phone call from a girlfriend I haven’t heard from for a while: Girlfriend: ‘You have no idea what you’ve started with your blog’ Me: ‘Ermm, what?’ Girlfriend: ‘You know that board I told you I had recommended you for?’ Me: [thinking oh no, now ... Related posts:
February 07, 2010
15:09
Why Do People Cheat?
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I was catching up with a long distant friend over Gmail Chat and somehow the conversation turned to cheating. How did we even start on the subject? We were chatting about relationships, he was telling me about how he had learnt from his previous relationship and was asking what I thought about abstaining from sex at the start of a new relationship. I told him my thoughts, that abstinence is not a theory I subscribe to but I can see the rationale…sometime during this chat, I asked him why he had previously cheated whilst in a relationship (he has not cheated in his current relationship). His response: ‘Cheated occasionally when I was feeling bad ... Related posts:
February 03, 2010
23:58
Sex Mis-Education: Virgin Power, Virgin Pride?
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(Photo Credit: Nana Kofi Acquah) I saw this billboard in Tamale, Northern Ghana and it reminds me of all that I hate about ineffectual sex education and bad messaging around the prevention of HIV/AIDS. The implication is that if you’re a virgin you cannot catch HIV/AIDS. Not strictly true, is it? Afterall, sex is not the only way to become infected with HIV. My other issue with this ‘Virgin Power’ message is that it ignores one of the biggest risk factors for HIV/AIDS in this country. Married women in Ghana are at a greater risk of contracting HIV/AIDS compared to their single sisters. Why? Simply because a lot of married women do not have autonomy over their ... Related posts:
January 30, 2010
14:39
Lights, Camera, Action!
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If we were going to play a word association game and I asked you to say the first phrase that comes to mind with the words ‘camera’ and ‘Africa’, you’d probably say ‘documentary’ or ’safari’. Don’t lie. You know you would. I don’t know if it’s just my crop of friends, or if all Francophone chicks are in fact just freaky…but I know a ton of freaky girls from French speaking countries! I’m stalling before getting into this story, because I hardly know where/how to begin. Let me just plainly say I saw my first West African sex tape…in the raw. My Togolese friend Michele has been dating a guy from Angola for the last 2+ years. ... No related posts.
January 26, 2010
23:14
Guest Contributor Mike: ‘She’s Just Not That Great In Bed’
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Dear AbeNana, I lied to an old friend. Maybe I shouldn’t have, But this was one of the rare situations where I looked in her pretty brown eyes and boldly lied to her. She is a very sweet young lady. Beautiful inside out & intelligent. She’s got that full feminine figure and all woman. The kind of body I like to wake up next to and have on my playground every day & nite. She is a career woman and successful too. Have I painted a perfect picture of her yet? Because I can and it won’t be lies. For years, our gears were engaged & locked and we had a helluva relationship. Our friends loved our ... Related posts:
January 21, 2010
17:09
Confidence is the Key to Great Sex
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I’m fairly willing to bet that if you ask the majority of mature women what makes for great sex, they’d say it all boils down to confidence. I haven’t read any studies on that theory or conducted an extensive poll supported that idea, but in speaking to women my age at least (those in their 30’s), they would say confidence is key to having really good sex. A woman’s confidence (ideally) comes from what she defines as success. Whether that be in her physique, her social standing, her education, her personal achievements or all of the above, a woman will make a better lover if she feels strong in who she is as an individual. I ... Related posts:
January 17, 2010
23:35
Adventures from the Bedrooms of African Women is 1 Year Old
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In a few minutes it will be a year since Adventures from the Bedrooms of African Women launched in cyber space and what a year it has been. I had no particular expectations when I suggested to my friend that we start this blog, infact what I originally wanted was for Abena and I to write a book together about the realities of sex and the African woman but I feared that it would go the way of our other project and die even before it birthed. Hence the idea for a blog came about. With blogs you have to update regularly, you have readers you owe a responsibility to… The other reasons I was motivated ... Related posts:
January 16, 2010
0:05
Leave only with what you came with
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They say when you lay down with dogs, you get up with fleas, and nothing puts a damper on any sexual experience, clandestine or otherwise when you get out of bed with proverbial “fleas”. These include STDs (herpes, the “clap” or *shudder* AIDS), parasites (like crabs and body lice) or the occasional blastocyst, which left unchecked will become a cute little baby boy/girl in 9 months. As fun as sex often is and can be, it is one of the most dangerous activities an African woman on the continent can engage in. With dubious and perverse men running around engaging in hybrid sex with multiple partners (some human and some not), they introduce all kinds of ... No related posts.
January 15, 2010
7:49
The G Spot: Myth or Reality
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I was interviewed by Joy Fm (a private radio station in Ghana) on the 14th of January on the existence of the G Spot. The actual segment which was broadcast on air included a sampling of the public on the subject. What came across to me very clearly, when the opinions of members of the public was sampled, was the amount of misconception that exists about the G spot and women’s orgasms. In this post I would like to clear some misconceptions and state some personal thoughts: When a woman has an orgasm it does not necessarily mean her G Spot has been hit. The G Spot refers to a zone (rather than a mere spot) ... Related posts:
January 13, 2010
23:30
Do Opposites Attract?
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I’m quite judgemental, I make up my mind about people fairly early on. I know almost from the minute I meet a guy whether I’m attracted to him or not. There are some people that you become attracted to the more you hang out with them. Of course there are also other people that you become less attracted to the more you hang out with them. I have a weakness for guys who do their own thing – men who are entrepreneurial, the kind that you know will make it some day – I don’t think those type of men are attracted to me. I think they prefer more “homely” and traditional women, women who will ... Related posts:
1. Anti-Marriage, Anti-Relationship and Anti-Children
January 05, 2010
22:10
The Adventures of Aba and Kukua: Part 2
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As usual the conversation revolved around the men in their lives: “Charle, as for me, I have had it with boys, they are lying, cheating scumbags. I think I shall just remain single – after all I get better orgasms from my vibrator”. “I have never used a vibrator before”. “Oh come on Kukua! In this day and age, we need to fix this situation now” Aba stands slowly, gives Kukua a mischievous smile and heads for her bedroom, re-appearing with what appears to be a vanity case. “Okay, Kukua your re-education starts now. So, this pink dildo with what appears to be rabbit ears on the side is the famous Rampant Rabbit. These on the other hand are anal ... Related posts:
January 01, 2010
23:37
New Year, New Adventures…
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New Year, New Adventures … for some time now I have been thinking about writing erotic fiction. In my opinion, there isn’t much good quality erotic fiction on the internet (yes, I have been searching) and so for 2010 I am going to turn my hand to writing erotic fiction. I will also use the relative safety of fiction to write on those subjects that my readers are keen to know more about, but contributors are reluctant to write on…as usual, no topic is off limit. Enjoy the story below and let me know your thoughts: “A relationship with a woman should not be drama”, Kukua thought. She had been hooking up with her friend Aba ... Related posts:
December 25, 2009
21:17
Have a Sexy, Merry Christmas!
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So, does anyone have any sexy stories to share involving Christmas, Santa Claus or anything remotely yuletide? No related posts. No related posts.
December 19, 2009
1:18
Guest Contributor Juliana Waris: “Everything, but…” kind of virgin
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So I’m one of those that who has chosen to try hard to practice the no premarital sex clause. As I have gotten older though, it has become increasingly difficult to get men to be down with this. My relationships are either long distance – so the sex thing doesn’t have to come up too often – or rather short lived. I made peace with this a long time ago – and accept the need for others to live out their own value systems. I have to be upfront though and say that the kind of virginity I practice is the “everything, but” kind. Well not exactly – because my but ... Related posts:
December 13, 2009
11:28
This climax courtesy of KLM
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Humph. As for this Adventure di333, I’m just going to recount the tale verbatim so that my personal views do not detract from the beauty of this story. A friend of mine recently traveled to Ghana to lick her wounds after a particularly bad break up with her boyfriend. (I guess when you’re parents have money you can do that…flee to Ghana to heal your broken heart.) On the return flight to the states from Amsterdam on KLM, she was seated by a 50 something Palestinian man and struck up a conversation with him. She told him why she was in Ghana and now returning back to the States, he told her he was a divorced ... No related posts.
December 06, 2009
18:38
Dating Dilemma: Who Pays?
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The worst part of any date for me is when the bill arrives. Who pays? The man? The woman? The one who initiated the date? Should you always offer to go dutch? Should you make a half-hearted attempt to reach for your purse? Should you insist on paying half? Should he (or she) pay for one date and you pay for the next? Does it matter who pays? Three date “payment” issues stick in my mind. Once upon a time I decided to explore internet dating. Truth be told, I wanted to write a book which was going to be titled “Finding Mr Right on the Internet”. My research involved going on numerous dates courtesy ... Related posts:
November 29, 2009
23:56
Interested in participating in a blog reading?
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On Friday the 4th of December I will be participating in a blog reading at Expressions which takes place in Smoothys, Oxford Street. In the 11 months that this blog has been active I have had numerous guest contributions which in my opinion is a major factor in the success of the blog. Can you imagine Adventures without Anthony’s chart topping “How to eat pussy…from the Givers Perspective”, or Darian’s “Good Christian Girls Don’t Have Sex” or or Esi Cleland’s “Two things you learn about Ghanaian men by walking the streets”. It will be great if I could get a small team to read for “Adventures”, if you have ever guest contributed for this blog, live ... Related posts:
November 22, 2009
21:50
Funniest Things Heard in Bed
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So you are in the sack with this guy (or girl) and he (she) says something and you’re thinking “what the ….”. A couple of the funniest things I have heard or been told about include: “It will be nice if you could fake an orgasm” “Where’s your g spot” as Mr X frantically digs about Ms X’s vagina “Make it tight, make it tight, make it tight” followed shortly by “Aaarghhh, it was too big before” “Geddit, geddit, geddit” What are some of the funniest things you have heard, overheard or been told about… No related posts. No related posts.
November 19, 2009
16:04
Why do people use sex as a tool in marriage?
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Last Saturday I was invited to be a guest commentator on Joy Fm’s “Home Affairs” programme, hosted by Araba Koomson. The topic was “why do people use sex as a tool in marriage?” One of my opening gambits was that for the majority of women, sex is not enjoyable; research such as that documented in the Shere Hite Report has indicated that 70% of women generally do not orgasm during sex. If you follow that logic this means a lot of women are having sex purely to please their husbands/partners/lovers so if for any reason your husband/partner/lover upsets you then your reaction is “No sex, until you have done x, y, or z”. If women were ... Related posts:
16:00
Body Confidence: Bikini Body Beautiful?
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I have never worn a bikini in my life and unless I have a miraculous bodily transformation in the next few months I doubt if I ever will. As I write this, I am sitting on a beautiful beach in the Gambia, dressed in black trousers and a short sleeved shirt, whilst all around me are women and men of all ages dressed in little scraps of nothing. I am here for a conference, they are here for a holiday – and from what I hear, perhaps some sex tourism. There is an old lady sitting not too far away from me, she is wearing a hot pink bikini, she saunters casually from her sun bed ... Related posts:
November 09, 2009
22:28
Cheaters, Dating Girls and Men Who You Don’t Fancy
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A couple of things that have been on my mind/been discussing with friends: * Is it inevitable that Ghanaian men will cheat when in a relationship? * Are women cheating in response to cheating partners? * Should we start dating women instead of men? * Why is it that the guys you fancy do not fancy you, and the ones who fancy you, you don’t fancy? What are your thoughts? Related posts:The Reluctant Celibate An Open Response to a Concerned Friend: Dating a Sexuality Blogger On Dating, Sex and Relationships: Younger Men versus Married Men Related posts:
November 01, 2009
12:39
Good Sex Tips
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So, I’m chatting with a group of girlfriends and I ask them to share some “Good Sex Tips”. Here is some of what they shared: • The orgasm you get from anal sex is mind blowing – Hmmm, if you have read every post on this blog you know my position on anal but despite my personal bias I have to include this tip. This is what I was told – there is a spot/gland in the anus and if that spot is hit – wow, the orgasm is mind blowing. It is important with anal sex that the man’s penis is not too big, that he knows how to use his penis, and that there is ...
October 27, 2009
13:12
Good-bye, Vibrator Virginity
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A couple of months ago, you may recall that Nana and I went on a search for new “accoutrements” while she was here in Atlanta. It was during that time that both she and the accoutrements seller loudly admonished me for having never used a vibrator. Jeez! Was it that big a deal? Apparently it was. Let me start by saying: Oh. My. Gawd! And Shiiiit!!! Like any first time sexual experience (with a person or a thing), it starts off a little weird because of the unfamiliarity. The circumstances surrounding my vibrator use probably could have had something to do with my discomfort as well. The kids had been screaming all day, the house was a wreck, and I could ...
October 25, 2009
22:34
First they come for the Lesbians and Gays…
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I want to congratulate my fellow Ghana blogger Nana Yaw for highlighting an issue which many Africans shun from – the issue of same sex relationships. His series throughout the week highlighted different aspects of same sex relationships and were insightful in many parts… apart from a minor slippage in his first post in the series; I felt Nana Yaw also made a real effort not to be judgemental. Talking about same sex relationships in our current context is always controversial. There is always the assumption that if you support gay rights then you’re gay, which of course comes with the attendant stigma associated with homosexuality. In recent times I have found myself being increasingly bothered ...
October 18, 2009
20:30
Different Types of Sex One Can Have…Or Not Have
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For some reason just started thinking about all the different types of sex one can have. Here’s what comes to mind, I will start with the obvious ones… • Vaginal sex • Oral sex • Anal Sex • Dry Humping • Tantric Sex • No Sex (does that qualify?) Surely there must be more…your thoughts?
October 17, 2009
21:29
Advice on Sex and Relationships from a Single Thirty Something Woman to Single Thirty Something Women
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There is much that thrills me about being thirty something including: • Being thirty something yet looking like I’m twenty something • An increased sense of confidence and self worth • Greater financial and personal freedom • Being able to easily get on and be friends with people who are in their 20s, 30s and 40s • Being fancied by men and women who are in their 20s, 30s and 40s In short, I think it’s great to be thirty something. I also think in your thirties you should be able to grasp opportunities and get what you want out of life. Getting what you want out of life includes personal happiness, financial freedom, mind boggling sex, work/life balance, great friends and a supportive family. At ...
October 13, 2009
8:11
What Has Smell Got To Do With Sex?
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Clearly a lot, right, but perhaps not in the way you may initially envisage. As part of my interest in researching sex and sexuality I borrowed this huge tome, “Our Sexuality” by Robert Crooks and Karla Baur* which I will be dipping in and out of and sharing some interesting bits with you all. What are your thoughts on the following: ” Smell. A person’s sexual history and cultural conditioning often influence what smells he or she finds arousing. We typically learn through experience to view certain odors as erotic and others as offensive. From this perspective, there may be nothing intrinsic to the fragrance of genital secretions that might cause them to be perceived as either ...
October 09, 2009
1:32
Rape as a Weapon of War
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On this blog I generally write about the “good” aspects of sex and how to have good sex. However, there is a flip side to sex: There are some women whose sexual rights and bodily integrity are violated through a myriad of factors including sexual abuse and rape. It is hard to categorise the severity of different types of abuse but in my view one of the most insidious types of violence is the use of rape as a weapon of war. In times of war, the warfront becomes women’s bodies with the rape and sexual abuse of women becoming part and parcel of wartime stratagems (some will argue that this is the case in times ...
September 30, 2009
11:03
Guest Contributor Ms S on: Giving and Enjoying Blow Jobs
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Blow job, fellatio, head, or whatever else you choose to call it, why do African women hardly talk about it? Growing up, the reactions from my fellow African women in regards to giving blow jobs ran the gamut from “Eww! Good girls don’t do that” to “I’ve been thinking about trying that but I don’t really know what to do.” Now since I haven’t conducted any kind of extensive research on the subject, I’ll just have to assume that African women are doing it somewhere, even if we’re not talking about it. So, purely from my point of view, here’s a little something for those who live in the “I’ve been thinking about that but ...
September 28, 2009
15:20
Nana’s interview with “Girl, Its Not Just You”
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For my thoughts on being black, womanhood and body issues do check out the interview with Girl, It’s Not Just You… Do let me know your thoughts on the interview
September 27, 2009
10:07
Anti-Marriage, Anti-Relationship and Anti-Children
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A few weeks ago one of my oldest friends accused me of being “anti-marriage, anti-relationship and anti-children”, I was shocked. “Me?” I responded, “Where did you get that impression from?” “It’s true” she said, if you like ask “Koshie* ”. What? My friends were discussing me and had come to the conclusion that I am anti-marriage, anti-relationship and anti-children? “Well, I know you and I know deep down you are not anti-marriage, anti-relationship and anti-children” my friend conceded. I asked Koshie and she agreed with Aminata’s* original view, and vigorously defended their position. So for the record I would like to clarify my position on marriage, relationships and children. Yes, I am fairly cynical ...
September 24, 2009
9:05
Pre-Menstural Tension: A Myth or Real?
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I come from the social constructivist school of thought and I’m loath to admit to any strong biological imperatives. My reasons for this are mainly political, women’s biology seems to be used as an excuse to keep women in their place. Does the fact that you carry a baby mean you are the only person who has to care for the child? and by extension take on board all the care-giving responsibilities needed within society – nurses, nannies,”house wives”, tea-maker at work, counsellor… Yet even I have to admit (very reluctantly) that there is a time of the month when I get really hungry – hungry for food and hungry for sex. Oh and at this ...
September 23, 2009
22:30
Random thoughts and questions on Sex and Sexuality
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Why is it that people ask if you’re gay when you stand up for gay rights? Why do I know so many wonderful single girls and no single men? Being in a relationships is overrated. Religious people get married early so they can have guilt free sex Pre-colonial African women had more control over their own sexuality compared to African women of today Polygyny should be outlawed Teenagers should be encouraged to masturbate as part of comprehensive sex education
September 20, 2009
19:55
Waist Beads: Sexy or what?
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I love waist beads. I love the way they look and the way they feel against my body. I love it when my lover plays with my waist beads. I feel sexier when I wear waist beads. The beads in the picture were a gift from a friend. She got them in Dakar, apparently they are known as “ball breakers” because of their size and they should only be worn when you’re going to have sex…. Alas, I am still waiting to break them out
September 15, 2009
19:03
Traditional African Seduction Tips
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I am very interested to learn more about traditional methods of seduction. A friend from Benin shared with me some sex tips from her mother. Mother: Put your husband’s head on your breast like this. Then rub his ears very gently like this. When he gets erect let him get on top. Wait until he is close to climax then you get on top. Afterwards there is nothing your husband won’t do for you. According to my friend, periodically, her mum would try this method on her dad and for days afterwards daddy would follow mummy around the house, eager to do her bidding.
September 12, 2009
3:30
What happens when love goes sour?
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To think that once upon a time you loved this person, could not wait to speak to him, see him, spend time with him. Then one day, you wake up, and things have changed. You no longer feel the same way. You no longer want to spend time with him. It is now inconcieveable that you will spend the rest of your lives together. What happens when love goes sour?
August 26, 2009
13:28
Eat Pussy
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So, I’m hanging out with the amazing professional photographer Nana Kofi Acquah when I see a young man wearing a T shirt which says “Eat Pussy”. For a moment I am stunned – all sorts of thoughts are running through my mind and I do not react as he strides past me with his group of friends. Then I suddenly think this will be a great photo for the blog so I run after him and ask if he is willing to pose for a picture… So men, this is a message from one of your own, “Eat Pussy” I am feeling inspired to now write a post on “How to eat pussy”…soon to follow. Photo credit: ... No related posts.
August 24, 2009
0:49
The Female Condom: My Non-Experience
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Lasy year I attended the International Aids Conference in Mexico and in my delegates bag were some female condoms. I was so excited! This was the first time that anyone had given me female condoms. Some of the exhibitors were also giving away female condoms. So, I stocked up. I had good intentions. I thought I would come home, practice how to use them and then use them…but somehow it never happenned, and they have stayed in my bag of toys. It’s a shame. I will be the first one to agitate for more female controlled contraceptives and my FC’s sit in my drawer. The reasons why? Several, including: At the time I acquired the FC’s my buddy ... No related posts.
August 15, 2009
6:56
Great Sexual Expectations Not Met
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One of my friends met a guy on a flight from New York to Accra, they were sitting next to each other on the flight and the conversation flowed easily. On their return to their respective towns in Ghana they kept in touch, phonecalls, text messages, emails…the conversations started to heat up though…erotic emails and sexy texts. Yesterday they arranged to meet up for drinks and late last night I got this text: “ I thk de build up 2 de main event was 2 hyped. Erotic txts nd emails whch kind of gve me great xpctatns of unsurpasable erotic pleasure. But the reality was very ordinary.” I don’t know about you but I can definitely identify with my friend. There ... Related posts:
1. Guest Blogger Ms Money Penny: Love your body and have great sex!
August 14, 2009
8:17
Oops! The Sex Mis-Adventures
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I have never forgotten a funny mis-adventure an ex potential lover told me about and everytime I remember the story it gives me a laugh. So he was getting down doggy style with a girl and she farted. Not once, not twice but three times…I suspect farting in bed is one of the most common mis-adventures. Do check out Abena’s post on her grandfather’s unique foreplay. Not all sex mis-adventures are funny though. I recall my first lover, there was one time when he pulled out and went into a panic…”what is this” he said. “What is what” I responded as he looked down in shock at his penis. He picked up a towel and wiped himself off, ... Related posts:
1. Guest Contributor Ms X on that time of the month
2. Adventures from the bedrooms of African Women: An Introduction
August 12, 2009
14:11
The Sex Interviews Questionnaire
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In a previous post I blogged about my desire to start the “Sex Interviews“. The way I see it, the sex interviews will ask everyday people (including the readers of this blog) a variety of sex related questions. BrownAngel and Kofi think the Kinsey Report is a good format to follow…my thoughts? Wow, that will only happen if I decide to do a PhD in Sexology or some related field. My current thought is to administer a questionnaire via Survey Monkey and also face to face. Kwegyirba has already agreed to conduct interviews with sex workers which I am thrilled about. Below are a list of my suggested questions for the Sex Interviews. What gender are ... Related posts:
August 06, 2009
16:30
Check Out My Guest Post at Female2Female
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I have written a guest contribution for Female2Female on the subject “Learning to have good sex”…you can check it out at here Feel free to leave a comment here too No related posts. No related posts.
August 04, 2009
10:25
The Sex Interviews
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I have just had a brainwave! I would love to start a series of interviews with readers of this blog – “The Sex Interviews”. Think of it as a normal interview with a focus on sex and sexuality. The interview will be conducted over email, you can be anonymous or open, the choice is yours. Questions will range from fairly innocent (well as innocent as you can be when talking about sex) to risque… I want to start this as a series so would love to interview as many people as possible, as usual I am primarily interested in the experiences of African women. This is sex research so its for a good cause! If you ... Related posts:
1. The Sex Interviews Questionnaire
August 02, 2009
15:40
The Dildo as Art?
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Look what Ms Cleland and I found at the “African market” in Osu yesterday… No related posts. No related posts.
August 01, 2009
2:59
Guest Contributor Kwegyirba Aggrey-Orleans: Why do African women douche?
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My mother always told me that douching was not necessary. And she was even against my use of tampons because she didn’t like me “introducing” things into my sensitive parts. (But I still did!) So I pretty much assumed all women knew that douching was old fashioned, unnecessary and maybe even harmful until I saw a douche set in my friend’s bathroom. Apparently, more African women douche than any other race. Why? Go figure. So I read more about douching and I would like to share some myths about it. Why Women Use Vaginal Douches: To rinse away any remaining menstrual blood at the end of the monthly period. Some women douche following sexual intercourse to avoid pregnancy ... Related posts:
July 29, 2009
22:56
Guest Contributor Esi W Cleland: Two things you learn about Ghanaian men by walking the streets
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In Ghana, when a man approaches a woman and tries to get to know her better for a relationship (leading to marriage, as we like to say here), he is said to be conning her. Yep. Conning. As in the verb to con: “To trick or defraud, usually for personal gain”. It may sound depressing but it’s not as bad as all that. It just means that a man sees a woman, likes her, and takes the steps that he thinks will encourage her to develop an interest in him. The Ghanaian men I hang out with don’t really con women anymore or I don’t see them doing it so I thought the art of ... Related posts:
July 06, 2009
23:48
Guest Contributor Mr Jones on Hot, Steamy Sex Sessions: To Record or Not Record?
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It is undeniable that sex is one of the most pleasurable activities in life. Over time, humanity has devised means of maximising the pleasure derived from the act of sex. In today’s electronic world, recording video clips of sexual activities is one of the most common means by which people take their fun to greater heights. With the wide spread availability of high-tech phones that can record quality video, the culture of sexual video recording is becoming even more common. Various people record for varying reasons. A young man who was interviewed on Ghana’s Joy FM’s Evening News last week conceded that he records himself having sex to boost his performance. The mere fact that he ... Related posts:
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12:54
Celebrating the launch of our new website
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To celebrate the launch of our new website I shall be publishing a post EVERY DAY this week. This is your opportunity to send in any blogging requests you may have. Miss Anon, I shall blog on long distance relationships as per your request. I am truly grateful to all the contributors, readers, bloggers who make Adventuresfrom.com an exciting, educational exhilarating space. Many thanks to Oluniyi David Ajao and the team at Web4Africa for our sleek, sexy and sophisticated new look. No related posts. No related posts.
July 03, 2009
17:24
Pubic Hair: To wax or not to wax…
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Just saw a Gillette video which demonstrates how men should shave their balls and it got me thinking about my own relationship with pubic hair. Seriously, it’s constantly (okay, maybe not that constantly) on my mind. At the moment I favour trimming my pubes with scissors and a small comb (I have locs so if you see a comb on my dresser you know what it’s used for. I keep having to tell people, erm you may not want to use that comb…) followed by an application of Veet for the bikini line. I do not feel like it is the best “hair-reducing” solution though… I remember a friend was chatting to a potential “buddy” and ... No related posts.
15:47
Guest Contributor Ms X on that time of the month
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It’s the week before my period and I am so freakin’ horny. It is not even funny! I think about sex all of the bloody time (and Nana reading your blog is not helping at all).Everything I see a hot looking guy I wonder what he will be like in the sack. Have you ever wondered what it will be like to do one of those hot looking, muscular fishermen on the beach? We don’t need to have a conversation just some hot steamy sex…Who says only men have sex on the brain? Related posts:Guest Contributor Miss A on Giving in to TemptationGuest Contributor Ms A on Celibacy, Temptation and Sex Related posts:
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2. Guest Contributor Ms A on Celibacy, Temptation and Sex
June 30, 2009
17:00
Not So Random Questions…
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I’m taking inspiration from Anti Rhythm and posing my own not so Random Questions… Is there always a “certain level” of sexual attraction between male and female friends? Is it possible to sleep with a friend and retain your friendship? F**k Buddies, for or against? What’s your favourite sexual act? Where’s the best place to have sex? What is your favourite sexual position? No related posts. No related posts.
June 29, 2009
22:59
Curious about who we are?
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If you have ever been curious about the women behind this blog check out the interview at LIFESTYLZ GH Let me know your thoughts… No related posts. No related posts.
June 25, 2009
18:02
The Reluctant Celibate
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I am no fan of abstinence although I completely understand the reasons why so many of my sisters (yes I am excluding the brothers) strive to abstain from sex. I have heard the arguments in favour of abstinence and I think they are all entirely valid except when it comes to yours truly. A male friend once told me about the value of abstinence and I so got him. Yes, you take time to know the girl, your relationship is not clouded by sex, by the time you have sex it doesn’t matter what your penis size is…all very valid arguments. From the perspective of my women friend it’s usually about the milk and ... Related posts:
1. Abstinence in a sex obsessed world?
June 20, 2009
17:19
Where are the Ghanaian sex shops?
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Okay, where are the Ghanaian sex shops? A friend and I will be doing our Ghanaian sex shop review next week and I just realised I have absolutely no idea where exactly the shops are. I have heard one is on the Spintex Road, and the other is on Oxford Street. Any precise directions please? Behind the plantain seller who sits opposite the MTN building may not be that helpful. Any recommendations as to what I should buy? No related posts. No related posts.
June 18, 2009
14:06
The Fear: Childbirth and Childcare
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I have a fear of childbirth. I have a fear of getting pregnant; feeling like my body has been taken over by a foreign being and labouring for hours to get this foreign being out of my body. I am fearful that I live in a part of the world where there is a very strong probability of dying in childbirth. I am scared that after labouring for hours to have this child I will have the sole responsibility of caring for the child. I am scared that I will be the only one who will wake up in the night when my child cries, that I will be the only one who feeds this child, ... No related posts.
June 15, 2009
23:33
A view out of Ghana: Neighbour Nigeria
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I have been thinking for some time that I would like to date a Nigerian man. The majority of Nigerian men I have come across are entrepreneurial, hard working and driven. What would be most ideal would be to date a Nigerian man living in Nigeria. He could fly over to Ghana on a Friday night to visit me, we could chill the whole weekend and then he could fly back on Sunday. This would give me the best of both worlds. I could be single on weekdays and “coupled” on weekends. I shared this thought with a Nigerian friend who was quick to point out that if I was to date a Nigerian man ... Related posts:
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